What should we pay attention to and how can we praise children to be better

It is said that parents are the children's first teacher, parents in addition to urging children's cultural learning, for children's character, self-esteem and other aspects of life also want to be educated. It is inevitable to criticize or praise children in the process of education. Many parents don't take this seriously, but good criticism or praise can have a positive effect on children's development. Let's take a closer look.

What should we pay attention to when criticizing children

First, do not hurt the child's self-esteem

Children do wrong, parents can criticize the child, but can not hurt the child's self-esteem, do not label the child, try not to criticize the child as an outsider face, put an end to violence.

Second, criticism to let the children believe

Be fair in your criticism and constructive in your suggestions. Parents should not deny everything to their children just because they have done something wrong.

Three, criticism to achieve the purpose of educating children

Many parents criticize their children only in the mouth, and said let it go, do not play the role of education children, such criticism is meaningless, correct education is the criticism of children to achieve the purpose of education and correction.

Four, after the criticism should also pay attention to the child's feelings

Do wrong in addition to criticism, parents please give the child a hug. If your child makes the same mistake, instead of yelling at him or her, ask him or her calmly if he or she knows what went wrong.

How do you praise your child for being better

One, clear why to praise children

When parents PRAISE their CHILDREN, they should let their children know what they have done correctly and received praise. Specific praise can help their children establish correct values in life.

Two, parents from the heart of the praise

Parents should not underestimate their children's powers of observation and thinking. When you praise your child, it must be from the heart. Only in this way can it be accepted by the child.

Three, pay attention to the way of expression

When complimenting a child, describing what you saw and felt is more effective than a dry compliment.

How to reward children correctly

First, material rewards should not be excessive

If parents use material rewards excessively, they will not only lose the role of motivation, but also let children have incorrect ideas, they will connect all things with material, so that children's values are distorted, and even become vain.

Second, be good at using spiritual rewards

Appropriate spiritual reward is more effective than material reward, children need not a single reward, but a variety of incentives, their anti-theft manual emotionally satisfied, respected and trusted in personality, in life to take care of, parents and children to establish an equal relationship, more respect for children.

Three, reasonable control

Reasonable control helps children establish the basic principles of doing things, so that children understand what can be done, what can not be done.

Four, for the child should do verbal praise but do not reward

For example, eat, dress, do homework, because this is the child itself should do things, if blindly reward, the child will think that as long as he (she) has to do something, the parents will reward him (she) of course. This is not conducive to the growth of children. Verbal praise can be used to teach children that they are doing the right thing and should do it in the future.