How to praise the child is better and better

How to praise the child is better and better? How to praise children is a knowledge, is not so simple, many parents mention to encourage children on the word poor, repeatedly is "you are good!" The words "how clever"; In fact, it's easy to turn the phrase "You're great! "Really smart" is not good for children, but may be counterproductive. Want to give the baby a better encourage it, we can do it according to the following principles: the principle of one: encourage praised content must be specific, don't label "awesome", "true good" I'm afraid we childhood heard the most praise and encouragement, so the question comes, listened to so many times, do you know where is "good" and "lovely" in where? It seems that there is no, finally evolved into the parents casually say so, you just listen to it, and even feel perfunctory. How sad that a praise that should have been very motivating has become a mere formality or a counter-effect! So, when you praise your child, you might as well say a few words, pointing out that he exactly because of what he did well, will let you think he is very "good", he is very "good". For example, tell a child, "How nice of you to put on your own socks today!" "You took the initiative to help mother with the slippers today, thank you!" This kind of targeted praise will make it easier for the child to understand and know what to do in the future, and your sincere affirmation will encourage him to do better in the future. A child who is constantly praised for his intelligence may lack the sense of cooperation, struggle with others, and be afraid of difficult challenges. "You're so smart" is likely to be hypnotic, filling a child with "magical confidence." In this case, conceit will make children disdained to cooperate with others, but they will want to compete with others when things happen. However, when facing the task that they feel difficult to complete, they can't help but shrink back. If they fail, they will have a stain on the label of "smart". So instead of habitually telling your child "how smart you are," you can be sure that his efforts, attitude, persistence, courage, creativity, organization, etc., such as counting 1, 2, 3, are because you are studying hard and deserve encouragement! Can tie your shoes, because you practice hard, keep going! ... Principle three: Encouragement is to make children more confident, not to put more pressure on children. We encourage children, is to make children confident, have courage, and willing to work hard for it; If not well encouraged, can even become a child's pressure. Many parents love to "imagine the future" when they encourage their children. Similar encouragement, we did not hear less when we were young: "this test is good, next time must be better!" This "message of future encouragement", will bring a lot of pressure to the child, worried that if the mother (father) can not finish the requirements, will let the parents disappointed. Therefore, we should not try to encourage the child to give us more feedback, only to increase the pressure on the child. Don't be greedy, let's just stick to the facts and recognize the things the child is currently doing well.